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Time-Out Tool: Steps for de-escalating an argument
When you are arguing with your spouse (because every single one of us does) you need to consider the time-out tool. When you are arguing and you realize that the next words out of your mouth are going to be harmful instead of hurtful, take a time-out. Follow these…
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The Root Cause of Divorce
Most people seem to agree that the divorce rate is too high. After all, over half of all marriages end in divorce. But it’s not like anyone gets married with the intent of ending that marriage within a few years (or at least you would hope not). So why…
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Depression and Anxiety: A Time Management Model
Traditional treatment models for reducing symptoms of depression and anxiety often focus on emotional regulation and control. For example, the Cognitive Behavioral approach encourages the affected person to take control of the negative automatic thoughts. These types of thoughts inform and empower one’s emotions. Stop telling yourself things like…
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Active Listening
Active listening is so important in any relationship and the truth is most people don’t truly listen to each other. When we practice active listening, we assure others that “I see you, what you have to say is important. You matter.” In order to effectively practice active listening, follow…
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How to Fight Fair
Fighting is Necessary Whether we want to admit it or not, every couple fights. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been together six months or sixty years, you will have disagreements and fights. Believe it or not that’s a good thing. Couples who don’t fight are headed toward divorce or…
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The Movie of Your Life
If you have read this far, you must be willing and eager to take control of your own destiny and write the story of your life with intention. You are ready to take deliberate action and are wondering where to begin this journey of self-discovery. I caution you that…
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Thermometer or Thermostat?
Most people are thermometers of life, passively reflecting their surroundings and circumstances while others actively seek to change their surroundings and circumstances.
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Identity: Who Am I?
But what if it was different? What if instead of allowing our circumstance and surroundings to define who we are, we had the power to write our own narrative?
